Hey everybody, welcome to Say What Wednesday’s, the weekly segment
that gives you little hacks in how to handle life’s challenges.
Today’s topic is learning how to stay away from those people
I call “buzz kills.” What’s a buzz kill
you ask? Have you ever been full of
positive energy? You know the kind of
mood where the birds are chirping, the grass is green, the sky is blue and even
if none of those things are true and the sun isn’t shining outside, it’s
shining in your heart. You get the
picture. So you’re in a great mood and ask someone how they are doing and all
of the sudden they tell you everything that’s wrong with them. Next thing you know your positively yellow
warm and fuzzy feelings have dissipated and you’re left with their negative
black cloud. These people are who I call
buzz kill’s. They come around and kill
everything positive! It’s okay to protect yourself and the energy around you
from negative people and I’ve got three steps to help you.
1) Notice a potential buzz kill during the first few words
they speak. If someone starts off a
conversation with “Things could be better” realize that there is a possibility
of negative energy being transferred from them to you. Instead of egging the person on to spill
their feelings, stop the conversation in its tracks and change the topic. “I’m
actually having a fantastic day, did you see the new episode of.” The
conversation is quickly off of the negative and on the positive.
2) If you don’t catch the buzz kill in the first few words
and they start motor mouth talking, listen while you make a mental grocery list,
decide what you’re going to have for dinner or even remember something funny
someone else said. Most people who “motor mouth” probably don’t want a
conversation, they just want to get something off of their chest and it doesn’t
matter who they are talking to. So, you just keep your mind busy with things
that will help you maintain your warm and fuzzies while their negative energy
bounces off of you.
3) Kindly dismiss yourself from the conversation. They’ve talked long enough and now you’re
over it. Give yourself an “out.” Not the “Oh my goodness, you’re being a buzz
kill, I have to go!” kind of dismiss but a “Hey, I have a deadline that I have
to meet but we can chat later” type of dismiss.
Be direct but diplomatic.
Remember folks, it’s up to you to protect your mood and your
energy! I hope you’ve enjoyed this edition of Say What Wednesday’s. If you’re
in the DC area join me at my Master Class Series Workshops as learn how to
navigate life’s challenges by using characters of the shows we love. In our
next Master Class Series Workshop we will examine how to recalibrate your life
using characters from the Issa Rae show Insecure.
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Until next time, Take Care of Yourself!
